As much as I say it, or as much as we hear it there are still times that it is necessary for us to take a trip to our past. The key is to making sure that trip is not to tear you down, but to lift you up. Let me tell you a little story. This story goes back 30+ years. The story has not ended, it continues to grow and evolve, but it is one of the many stories that continues to shape my life. This year, this story had a nice little surprise in it. You see, last year Alyssa told

I have picked up my meditation practice again. I was finding myself very unsettled, anxious and always trying to breathe out negative energy. So I am trying to meditate at least one time a day. Along with meditating, I have been doing a lot of writing. I have a handful of blogs I have started to script. Most of my blogs take time, and are not written and released in the same day. This is partially due to my need to feel good about what I am sharing, making sure it is relevant

We all to often her the words abusive relationship and immediately think of a couple, a husband and wife, partners, boyfriend and girlfriend. We all too often don't recognize that many of us have or are experiencing abusive relationships in our daily life. At one point in my career I had a boss that made you know exactly where you stood with her. She was very aggressive, very easily angered and you never really knew what version of her you may get. Probably the toughest boss

I recognize now, two years later, I am not the only female who has had to choose her sanity over her career. I have also learned in the last two years, observing not only what has occurred in my own life but what is taking place in society, that being a professional female is still more challenging and difficult as it was, if not more so, then 20, 30, 40 years ago. Interestingly, this was like an A Ha moment for me the other day. For someone reason, I realized that what I hav

2020 has been one hell of a year so far hasn't it! The one thing I have noticed recently is the number of people who just want to get to 2021. They are counting down the days until the New Year. Reflect for a moment on this quote: "The two most powerful warriors are patience and time." ~ Leo Tolstoy I know in some ways this quote seems to have it all wrong, there is so much that needs to be fixed and fixed now. There is so much wrong in this world and if we could just move

In every position I have ever held, one quality that made or broke my success was my ability to be viewed as a trusted advisor. It didn't matter if it was an individual contributor in an early career role or when I was a Sr. Director. This quality is so important David Maister wrote a book on it ~ The Trusted Advisor. It is a book I highly recommend everyone read and gives sound advise for being seen as a trusted advisor. But before you read the book, before you go any de

"I may not be where I want to be but I'm thankful for not being where I used to be." ~ Habeeb Akande This quote came across my Instagram feed this morning. I had plans to write on a different topic today until I read this. You may have heard don't look back throughout your life. But the truth is, you need to reflect back on your journey so you can remember on the tough days why you are where you are at this very moment. I have had a lot of days recently were I have doubted

I hate failing. I am sure it has a lot to do with the fact that when I was younger I had people say I was not capable, I would never be able to, it would be too hard. Failure can sting and can hurt, but it can also open your eyes, help you grow, make you a better person. Part of the issue with hating failure and struggling to embrace it is because from an early age we are taught that failing is bad. If you got an F in a class, you were a stupid failure. If you failed your dri

Happiness is 1 of my 5 core values. Does this mean I am happy all the time, hell no. What it means is happiness is a requirement for me in how I live and the decisions I make. If I am unhappy, I should assess my unhappiness and make adjustments to return the joy to my life. Similarly, when I make decisions, I weigh out the pros and cons on how it will impact my happiness factor. Happiness makes me feel alive. The picture of me above is a great example, my happiness shine

Me too! I am at one of those pivotal moments. Those moments where you know something is about to happen. You are not sure what it is or when it will happen, but it's coming. These events usually occur from the build up of energy and activity that has been taking place in your life. There are all these small things leading up to one big Bang! You may or may not be in tune with the energy, if you are you are probably anxious, excited, nervous and maybe even impatient. Some peo

As I mentioned in my blog from June 17, 2020, the one about not focusing on being perfect but continuous improvement instead, yeah that one, I have been enjoying TikTok. Everyday this week I made a goal to post one TikTok a day. I did something different everyday so I could learn something new about the platform every time I used it. Any who, I was scrolling through my #fyp (for you page) and the accounts I follow when I realized their are a lot of people who assume the wors

The last couple of years I have been focusing on decluttering. For those that know me, this may sound odd to you because I live pretty simple, we don't have a lot of things in our home and we are pretty tidy. But the reality was that I actually did have an excesses of things. What do you mean by excess? Excess is having more than what you need. For example, when you open your refrigerator, is it filled to the point that the contents more than feed the people in your home a

We all do it. We all put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect. Have the perfect life. Raise perfect kids. Be perfect in our endeavors. Who the fuck do we think we are? Robots, machines, super human? I will be the first to admit I do this to myself all the time. For example, I am trying to learn how to use TikTok. I enjoy watching videos on this platform. I find people are raw and real in their clips. And it is fun! I have made two TikTok's so far. Yeah 2. You know w

What is it to be a leader, does it give your power or is it a responsiblity?